Seriously, Where The Fuck Is Everyone? (& Other Ramblings From A Disgruntled Millennial)

Yeah, I look moody af because I'm waiting on a bloody text!

Firstly, I want to start with a little disclaimer: this post is not about any of my friends specifically, it's purely my observations on modern life and is meant solely for musing purposes. My friends are all super lovely, but even we can't pretend we're not completely naff at staying in touch and organising a catch up at times!

So, if you're a friend and you're reading this thinking "hmmm that does sound rather like me she's talking about" then, yes, in some part, it probably, almost definitely, is about you. It's about me too. It's about all of us millennials - the first generation to really use technology as a means of communication - and the first to completely miss the point of it all!

Because I guarantee we all have some unread email, a text or WhatsApp message awaiting a reply, a missed call we haven't yet returned, or a plan we've cancelled at the last minute with no real reason why - we're all letting someone, somewhere down. 

With so many ways to contact each other, have we completely lost the ability to communicate?

Before I really get into a rant, let me take you back to my teenage years, when I was either glued to my best gal pal, Nokia, juggling multiple text conversations with my many friends (and obvs trying to beat my high score on Snake), or dialling up to the internet to share my asl. Ah the good ol' days.

Fast forward 16 years and I still have my phone glued to my hand (though I have treated myself to a rose gold S7 upgrade, complete with all the mod-cons, but no Snake!), and yet I have no-one to chat to because more often than not, I have to wait three days for a reply - not exactly instant messaging is it? And with only a handful of close friends to call upon these days, I can barely find a mate who's free to grab a coffee let alone make actual weekend plans, and so I'm often left asking: seriously, where the fuck is everyone?

We all grew up, got married, moved away, had children, built careers, filled every weekend, and found that life just gets in the way. We're all always so busy with work and errands and responsibilities. We just don't have the luxury of time to dedicate to friendships the way we used to.

And I totally get that. Sometimes often it's actually me not getting back to a friend. I'll open a text when I don't really have time to reply and I'll forget about it for six hours. Or I'll see a missed call but I can't be bothered to return it - it's been a long day and all I want to do is Netflix and chillax tbh - and before I know it, it's been three weeks!

But at the same time, it really irks me when I'm the one waiting by the phone and I get no reply, despite seeing that, errr... you're currently online commenting on somebody else's status! I mean, really, why do we find it so hard to maintain digital conversations? I see people on trains, in waiting rooms, even just walking down the street with their phones in their hands, scrolling through Instagram, or posting to Facebook, or adding dresses to their ASOS basket, but, you what mate, you still haven't replied to my text? Are you ignoring me? Avoiding me? Maybe you are genuinely busy, but it's been 36 hours and I'M GETTING PARANOID!

What says serious blogger like a bunch of sassy snaps?

There are so many ways to connect with each other online these days, but we seem to be missing that human connection and I'm not sure if modern technology is to blame, or just plain laziness. 

So what can we do to fix our millennial communication problem? Well, I think we can start by being strict with our phone time. Instead of picking up your phone to meaninglessly scroll away for 20 minutes, pick it up with purpose! Reply to that unanswered text message, return a missed call. Don't have any notifications? Before you start chucking everything in your digital basket in a mad, treat yoself spree, send a message to someone you care about and brighten up their day.

And, where we can stretch to it, let's block out time for face-to-face catch ups, friend-bonding and girl time. It's so important to put in that extra bit of effort to maintain our adult friendships. Right, I'm off to text some pals and call my nan. What are your thoughts on our modern communication problem? Do you agree we have one? Has technology actually made communicating harder, or has it just made us lazier? I'd love to hear your opinions...

The snaps used to support this blog post were taken on a recent trip to Lewes. The dress is from Matalan and the bag (sold out) and shoes are from Nasty Gal. The sunglasses are New Look and the photographs were taken by Matt Bemment. And the awkward poses? Well those are all my own, of course!

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  1. I agree with everything in this post, It's that 'I'll get back to it later' mentally but later never comes, for me anyway and I feel so guilty for it yet haven't made any changes. Great read Jayde.

    Shay x

    1. Thanks so much for taking the time to read, Shay!! I completely understand the guilt - sometimes we have to do better, sometimes we have to go easy on ourselves xx